WHAT EVERY MAN WANTS IN A WOMAN
BY JOHN HAGEE
OVERVIEW
WHAT EVERY MAN WANTS IN A WOMAN
Opposites Attract…and can thrive in a marriage built on God. The book starts with the results of a survey detailing the ten most important qualities that each man or woman wants in a spouse, then teaches us how we can be the person who breeds that quality in our husband or wife.
Throughout the book the authors use their own personalities and experience with marriage to demonstrate how to do marriage right.
The book comprises of powerful chapters which addresses various issues about marriage.
starting with a question on the sizzle of marriage either been present or lost to what women really wants.to exposing the love secrets everyman must know and more secrets every man must know.
John Hagee also asked a powerful question” can a marriage survive adultery, Abuse or imprisonment, addictions, alcoholism or homosexuality, poor communication, lack of passion, or poor money management and lastly what is Love Portrait.
From chapter one addresses the various stages of marriag: such as Lust, Rust and Dust.
Right now you know into which category your
marriage falls.
In forty-six years of pastoral ministry, I’ve married hundreds of couples in every conceivable format. I’ve
married them in churches, in magnificent cathedrals, under oak trees on a family farm, in public parks on a beautiful spring day, and on ships at sea with hundreds of our television Salt Covenant partners looking on during the John Hagee Ministry’s annual cruise.
I have never been to a wedding where the room was not charged with joy, hope, and a sense of absolute delight for the future.
The scene is always similar regardless of the setting.
The bride is glowing like an angel.
Her face is radiant with joyous storybook expectations of the marriage she is about to speak into covenant.
This is the pinnacle of her dreams. She holds the hand of the man she has chosen to be her partner for life and makes her covenant before God, saying,
“I do.”
Six months later, all hell breaks loose. She’s in my office with tears dripping off her cheeks, gasping with convulsive sobs, saying, “What did I ever see in him?”
The groom stands in front of me holding her hand tenderly, pledging before God and man that he will “love, honor, protect, and provide” for his radiant bride.
She is to be the queen of his life. She is the one whom God has sent into his life as the Proverbs 31 woman whose “price is far above rubies.”
She’s priceless! You don’t need to be Sigmund Freud to know that he has the urge to merge.
A hormone hurricane is rapidly approaching category five just as he says, “I do.
Pastor Hagee addresses another issues on ENTERING INTO MARRIAGE WITH HIGH EXPECTATIONS AND LOW PREPARATION
It’s absolutely amazing to me . . . no, actually it’s unbelievable, that the courthouse will give any human being with brains enough to find the front door a license to get married.
My father, who pastored for fifty-three years, often said, “If you have half a mind to get married, do it; that’s all it takes.”
Think about it! You must take a four-month driver’s education course, learning how to put the key in the
ignition, step on the gas to go forward, step on the brake to stop, work the windshield wipers when it rains, and turn the signal light right and left for the appropriate turn before you
can climb behind the wheel of an automobile alone.
Spiritual authority vs. feminine manipulation
Ephesians 5:23 states, “For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church.” Husband, it is your God-given assignment to be the prophet, priest, protector, provider, and promise keeper for your home.
I’ll say more about this later in the book. Only a Spirit-filled woman can submit to her husband’s
lead. It is the natural desire of a woman to lead through feminine manipulation of the man. The battle of the sexes began in Genesis 3:16, when God said to the woman, “Your craving shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you.”3 In The Art Scroll Tanach Series, author Meir Zolotowitz stated, “Woman’s punishment is measure for measure.
What every man wants in a woman
She influenced her husband and he ate at her command. Her punishment was that she would now become subservient to him.”
Why did Saint Paul say, “I do not permit a woman to . . . have authority over a man” (1 Tim. 2:12)? It was because it is the natural thing for a woman to try to do. She is, by instinct, a manipulator of the situation. Fallen women will try to dominate the marriage.
What every man wants in a woman
The man has the God-given role to be the loving leader of the home.
The Bible says, “For the husband is head of the wife” (Eph. 5:23). If you accept that difference, whether you are a husband or a wife, your marriage will be as the days of heaven on earth. If you resent and resist that difference, your marriage is going to be miserable from day one.
SEX IS GOD’S IDEA
The Bible is very specific about what God expects for men to be to a woman. First, consider Saint Paul’s command to men: “Let each man have his own wife” (1 Cor. 7:2). The point is very clear. Sex outside of marriage is absolutely forbidden.
There are no excuses. God has zero tolerance for sex outside of marriage. Safe sex is sex with a marriage
license.
I have heard men in counseling sessions say, “But my wife is frigid.”
My response is, “Find a way to light her fire, Bubba, but stay at home.”
Some men say, “But my wife and I have an understanding.”
What every man wants in a woman
I don’t care what you and your wife have agreed upon. Let me give you God’s understanding: “Do not be deceived.
Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites . . . will inherit the kingdom of God” (1 Cor. 6:9–10). God demands loyalty in the marriage
covenant.
In 1 Corinthians 7:3, Paul gives a command to men: “Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her.” In the King James version, it reads: “ . . . render unto the wife due benevolence,” which refers to sex, “conjugal duty.” God not only expects the man to be loyal, but He also expects him to
be a lover.
TAKE THESE NECESSARY STEPS
To choose for the life and success of your marriage, you must take certain steps that will enable you to have the relationship you desire with your spouse as you walk hand in hand on the journey called life. First, you must stay connected to the Creator who fashioned you in His image. The Book of Psalms promises that God is near to all who call on Him, to all who call on
Him in truth.
When you call on the name of God, hope enters your speech, your mind, and your heart. Where there is life, there is hope. Jesus Christ is the Living Water and the Blessed Hope.
Proclaim to the Lord with your mouth: “I make a choice to stay connected to my source of life and blessings. I will stay connected to the Lord whom I serve and to His
Word that gives me strength and guidance.”
What every man wants in a woman
Do it the Torah way.
Second, you must repent before God, whom you have offended. Every time you have shown insult, anger, or disdain for your spouse, you have shown it to God. The act of repentance tells the Lord you have recognized your sin, have shown remorse, and are ready to begin anew.
Repentance is one of the greatest acts of obedience you will ever commit. You can pray these words: “Today, Father, I repent before You and my spouse, whom I have offended
with my thoughts, my speech, and my actions.” Do it the
Torah way.
Choose to keep the covenant. You must make a decision to stay married to your spouse for the rest of your life. Your spouse may have hurt you, but learn to forgive, for those who forgive will be forgiven.
Pray: “Today I choose to keep the covenant I made before God and my spouse.” You must choose to love your spouse second only to Christ, your Savior. In order to be committed to any relationship, you must choose to love. Loving as Christ loves is the greatest accomplishment to which you can attain.
You might have to humble yourself to accomplish this; Jesus humbled Himself before His accusers prior to His death. You may have to suppress your ego; Jesus said no to self as He knelt before His disciples and washed their feet.
Whatever you sacrifice for love, God will restore to you above what you could ever think or imagine. Do it the Torah way.
Choose today to show, without reservation, the love that God has put into your heart for your spouse. The desire you have for romance must be within the confines of the holy sacrament of matrimony. Any temptation to take this desire outside of marriage is an evil inclination that will deceive
you and demand instant gratification no matter what the cost.
Subdue any desire outside of the covenant of marriage, and make every effort to show love and romance to the person with whom you made covenant. God’s Word will keep you in God’s constant presence. Pray: “Lord, today I proclaim that I will love my spouse unconditionally—as You have unconditionally loved me.” Do it the Torah way.
Know that God has a great plan for your marriage. Together you will serve Him in the path He has chosen for you. He takes the most painful situations in our lives and makes them testimonials to His power. We are given challenges so that we can learn to overcome—not to give in.
What every man wants in a woman
